Jesus had once said "What we believe is what we say and what we say is what we believe. They work hand-in-hand, together". But does this really hold true always? Is it really true in today's time? Do people really mean what they say? Do they speak out the truth all the time? I agree and fully understand that sometimes it's the need of the hour, sometimes we do that because we don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
Say for example, a small kid has drawn a cat and has coloured it with all possible and available pastels! Yet I would be telling him "this is so beautiful". Why? The reason is simple. Likewise there are many other such cases, sometimes we say things which we don't really mean and it's because we don't want to hurt the other person!
But then there are times when we would do better if we speak the truth and be true to the person before us! He/she will be hurt even more when he/she comes to know that all those butter-coated words that we had been telling him/her are nothing but lies! That would hurt him/her even more! Some people are really very sensitive and emotional, I am one of them. I know perhaps I don't have that big heart to hold myself upright when I have been dealt a blow emotionally! But still, I would expect people to be true and honest.
People shouldn't make someone believe that they want to be with them and make this world of illusion just to please them, when they really have other ideas! If someone is not interested in someone else anymore, why can't they just let them go and let them be happy? No, it's not just about love matters alone. Say for instance - I say someone that whenever he feels like talking to me, he can ring me up anytime. And he rings, he rings because I had taken the initiative but then I say that I am busy, or something else, plainly say I try to avoid him. Won't that hurt him? He called me up in the first place because I had told him so! We should be sincere in what we are saying. The person before us mightn't like our true words, but then at least he won't be in a false illusion!
In some other cases, it's selfishness that drives people to do so! Some people will hold on to someone they don't want, to keep themselves from being alone. Then they'll cheat on that person when they find someone else. Unfortunately, the victim involved is caught completely off guard when he/she is finally dumped. It's a cruel game, to say the least.
Some people are trained to be polite from birth. Politeness translates into "little white lies" in order to let other people down gently. I understand they are too good to hurt someone. But generally speaking "why say things which you don't mean, at the first place?"
If a person wants to hang out with you because he or she is "bored", then it means your job will be to entertain him or her and you won't get anything out of it yourself except the "wonderful" feeling of having kept someone from being bored. But we shouldn't keep high hopes. Because more often than not, you may be hurt, when the truth comes out!
So be honest and true while saying things, however bitter it might seem. Because keeping someone in false illusions would hurt him or her even more when the truth is disclosed!
Say for example, a small kid has drawn a cat and has coloured it with all possible and available pastels! Yet I would be telling him "this is so beautiful". Why? The reason is simple. Likewise there are many other such cases, sometimes we say things which we don't really mean and it's because we don't want to hurt the other person!
But then there are times when we would do better if we speak the truth and be true to the person before us! He/she will be hurt even more when he/she comes to know that all those butter-coated words that we had been telling him/her are nothing but lies! That would hurt him/her even more! Some people are really very sensitive and emotional, I am one of them. I know perhaps I don't have that big heart to hold myself upright when I have been dealt a blow emotionally! But still, I would expect people to be true and honest.
People shouldn't make someone believe that they want to be with them and make this world of illusion just to please them, when they really have other ideas! If someone is not interested in someone else anymore, why can't they just let them go and let them be happy? No, it's not just about love matters alone. Say for instance - I say someone that whenever he feels like talking to me, he can ring me up anytime. And he rings, he rings because I had taken the initiative but then I say that I am busy, or something else, plainly say I try to avoid him. Won't that hurt him? He called me up in the first place because I had told him so! We should be sincere in what we are saying. The person before us mightn't like our true words, but then at least he won't be in a false illusion!
In some other cases, it's selfishness that drives people to do so! Some people will hold on to someone they don't want, to keep themselves from being alone. Then they'll cheat on that person when they find someone else. Unfortunately, the victim involved is caught completely off guard when he/she is finally dumped. It's a cruel game, to say the least.
Some people are trained to be polite from birth. Politeness translates into "little white lies" in order to let other people down gently. I understand they are too good to hurt someone. But generally speaking "why say things which you don't mean, at the first place?"
If a person wants to hang out with you because he or she is "bored", then it means your job will be to entertain him or her and you won't get anything out of it yourself except the "wonderful" feeling of having kept someone from being bored. But we shouldn't keep high hopes. Because more often than not, you may be hurt, when the truth comes out!
So be honest and true while saying things, however bitter it might seem. Because keeping someone in false illusions would hurt him or her even more when the truth is disclosed!
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